What's Floodlighting?

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By Ann Kelly

March 28, 2025 at 6:27 am EDT

Dating is always a real Ann-Venture. Blind dates, speed dates, online dating...and now we have to deal with “floodlighting”. What’s that?

That’s the equivalent of oversharing, which we do on a daily basis every day on social media if we’re not careful. Being nervous on a first date will lead to floodlighting. and that can make some people run the other way.

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So how to handle it? These dating experts suggest paying attention to what your date is saying and choosing your words carefully for a start, but I’m sure you have plenty of your own tricks!